Can I Get an (A) Man?

{ September 23, 2009 @ 7:11 am } · { Daily Life, Self Esteem for Women }
{ Tags: Daily Life, guidance, marriage, Personal growth, Relationships }

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.

You know when we say our prayers, sing a hymn, or a preacher says something we agree with in a sermon we say Amen. Amen means that we strongly agree with what was said. Of course there are times that I don’t agree with everything I hear. For example, I don’t agree with the rules that exist out there when a man and woman date. It’s like anything goes. What shocks me the most is that the church may have adopted some of these rules. It’s like the church is the new night club or pickup joint. To tell you the truth it is a little scary. What scares me the most is this three date rule I keep hearing about on television. This rule states that after the third date it’s okay to sleep with a man. Now please somebody tell me that this does not go on in the body of Christ.

I have heard females say time and time again they want a husband, they want to get married. My question is, are you sure you just don’t want a wedding and a honeymoon or a warm body next to you? I mean we might as well be honest. No one is really ready for marriage, Lord knows I wasn’t. It took a lot of dying to self just to make it this far. I mean God had to really work on me. Ladies I am still in the shop.

My question is do you want (a) man or do you want an (A) man? Now you may ask me what is the difference between the two? Well, I am glad you asked. My definition of (a) man is this…ANY MAN. He doesn’t have to have a job, a place to live, stays with his momma, cheats on his wife or girlfriend, lazy, trifling, arrogant, abusive, cheap, untrustworthy, no morals, and he has kids he doesn’t support, etc. Need I continue?

Now on the other hand an (A) man can be right in front of your face and you may never even know he’s there because you’re so hung up on “YOUR” type of man. He has manners, he respects you and others, he has a job and pays his bills. He is loyal and trustworthy, he makes you laugh, and he holds you up when you fall. He is there when you’re sick, he wants something out of life and he will help you be the best that you can be. He is single and he will show you the papers to prove it. If he has children he spends time with them and supports them as well as yours, if you have any. He communicates, and is romantic, as well as cooks and cleans. He is your best friend and you can feel free to be yourself around him, he can apologize when he’s wrong, he knows how to pray for and with you. He has morals and loves the Lord so he knows how to love you like the Bible tells a man he should (1Peter 3:7) …and you’re equally yoked. (2 Cor. 6:14) I could go on and on.

The real question is can you be the woman an (A) man wants? Can you wait for God to send him to you? Really, if you don’t want to be with you, how do you expect someone else to be with you? Are you willing to let God deal with you first? The Bible says: Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. Can I get an Amen?

Ella D. Fleming
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