Have You Done Your Homework?

{ November 12, 2009 @ 3:16 am } · { Self Esteem for Women }
{ Tags: companionship, Daily Life, Dating, male and female issues, marriage, Relationship, Relationships }

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.

When I was in school I didn’t like doing homework, but I knew it had to be done because if I didn’t I would get a bad grade. Sometimes I would study and study for a test and still fail. I guess I just didn’t understand the material. When my kids were in school I would do whatever I could to help them do well. I would buy their supplies, get them a tutor, make them stay to any afterschool program offering help, get them encyclopedias, computers, you name it. I would ask them if they had any homework, when they completed it, I would check it. If they didn’t do it, they would suffer the consequences.

Ladies and gentleman my question to you is…..HAVE YOU DONE YOUR HOMEWORK? Okay, I know you’re saying to yourselves where is she going with this? For those of you who know me by now, you know what I’m talking about. Before you get serious or get your heart all invested in another person, have you found out everything there is to know all about them? Did you ask all the necessary questions, meet the family to see if they are sane or have a history of abuse, or drug usage, etc.? Did you run a background check? Have your friends and family checked the person out? Did you search the internet or hire a detective? Have you seen any signs that told you or is telling you to run for your life and don’t look back?

You have these smart young ladies with college degrees, masters and bachelors, etc. running behind these jokers who won’t even work in a pie factory let alone treat them the way they deserve to be treated. Then you have these really hardworking, loving, gentle, faithful men who fall for these women who are lazy, gold digging, mean, etc. Everyone is buying “Love.” What is up with that? I mean the list can go on and on with both of these scenarios.

Tell me what grade of person do you want, an A, B or C? Again my theory is no one is doing their homework and when you don’t do your homework you end up with a “BIG FAT ZERO.” We don’t care about the substance of a human being, just the outward appearance. We only care about how they make you feel at that time (lust), and what they can do for you (selfish). Some fall into another category, they know the person is wrong for them but for some reason they think “LOVE” can change him or her into this wonderful person……NOT! If you are a believer you should know better. You couldn’t even change yourself. If someone shows you who they are up front that is who they are, period. Only God can do the changing.

The sad thing is we take more time shopping for our outfits than we do finding out who we are “hooking up with.” We spend hours looking for the right shoe to match our dress and handbag, or spend hours buying a new car or selecting a course in school or a career, but we won’t invest the time or energy to finding out who we are letting into our sacred place. Our bodies are the temple of the Holy Ghost so why are you mixing darkness with light, the devil with the Lord.

In this life you can get schooled (played) or be schooled (smart), the choice is up to you. Everybody wants to be loved and for the most part I believe there is someone out there for everyone. The fact is we don’t use the right tools to find them (the Word). Are we a good judge of character? We may not be, but God is. He knows how many strands of hair is on your head; wouldn’t He know the right companion for you? Okay then, why aren’t you going to the source, “The Creator,” when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex? What really frustrates me, is seeing good people in a relationship with the wrong person.

Believe me, YOU WILL BE TESTED. No man can serve two masters. God will have no other gods before Him. He has a purpose for your life and he will not allow anything or anyone to get in the way of it. Thus he will remove the hindrances out of your way; for your good and for His glory. So if you are single and looking for a long term, serious relationship, please save yourself a lot of unnecessary grief, and look deep before you leap…….”DO YOUR HOMEWORK!!!”

Ella D. Fleming
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